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Friday marked the 4 anniversary of my son’s death by suicide. My post on Facebook started like this:
4 Years – 48 Months – 1461 days – 35060.5 hours – 2,103630 minutes –
126, 217,800 seconds – Since we were told you were gone. Our hearts broke and our lives were forever changed.
I took the day off from the computer and took a little “me time”. Kris is always on my mind but I went through a couple of photo albums and cried a bunch but smiled a bunch too.
As the 1st anniversary approached we as a family decided to go out for dinner and spend time together. Frankly, I just didn’t want to be alone. We were all pretty numb. We went to the Ponderosa Steak House. Somewhere we had gone several times as a family over the years. Going out to eat on the day has now become a tradition. A time to be together, share our memories and pass around plenty of hugs. This year as we were discussing where to go, I brought up one of my first memories of Kris.
Kris was born on a Friday. His dad was in a bowling league every Wednesday night. Wednesday rolled around and I didn’t want to stay home alone with the baby yet. Mr. Dollycas phoned his mom and said, “Do you think it would be o.k. to take him to the bowling alley?” She quickly replied, “He’s yours, you can take him wherever you want. He was quickly bundled up in his little snowsuit and off we went to the bowling alley, where he quickly became the center of attention. For the rest of that season, he went to the bowling alley every Wednesday night. As he got older and was joined by 2 sisters and a brother we went bowling as a family quite often.
So the bowling alley/sports pub in our hometown, about 3 miles from the one we went to all those years before, was recently taken over by new owners and we had heard great things about the food so the reservation was made. We had a great dinner and ran into a couple of members of our extended family and friends we hadn’t seen in a while too. More memories and hugs! We also made a couple of new memories as the grandchildren, Daughter #2 and Son #2 bowled a game. For one of the grands, it was their first time bowling. About the same age as Kris was when he bowled his first game.
The night ended with another round of hugs and no tears, at least when we were all together.
I will never say the pain or the grieving gets easier because so far it hasn’t. It gets different. It doesn’t hit on only a few days of the year either. It is an everyday pain. Every time we get together, Kris is missed. Every day his daughter, now almost 7, lives her life I think about the things he is missing and the joy she is missing by not having her daddy here doing things with her. His death has had a profound effect on our entire family.
So here is where I get on my soapbox for a minute.
If you are dealing with depression, reach out, get help. Your life matters!
If you are in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741-741.
If you know someone that is dealing with depression or just acting off, step up, offer to listen, try to get them to accept help. Let them know their lives matter and that they are important to you. Don’t give up! Stay present! Just because they are seeing a therapist/doctor doesn’t mean they are o.k. Just because they seem better doesn’t mean they are. Kris seemed better. He was seeing a therapist. He reached out for help until that night when he didn’t. I am not an expert. I am just giving my 2 cents because I don’t want any family to join us on a journey like this. Know what to watch for. You can find more information here: https://afsp.org/about-suicide/
Weekly Rewind – March 11 – 16, 2019